My mind can be pretty goofy sometimes. As in, I can piece together bits of unrelated information and come up with a totally far off conclusion, yet I’m absolutely convinced it’s 100% true.
Anyone else like that? Yeah, I see you hiding back there.
I’ve done this with everything. Checking for “intruders” in the middle of the night. Circling the block to make sure that speed bump (which I totally SAW) was not a child or an animal.
Believing that if I don’t worry about a situation, then the worst case scenario will absolutely happen.
There was a time I absolutely believed that if I gave God control over my life that I would have to accept things might go badly. That not only could the worst case situation happen, but that just by letting go of it, it would.
What a big ol’ lie.
Whether or not you struggle with clinical anxiety, fear is still a giant threat to our emotional and spiritual health when going through a major life change like losing a spouse through divorce or death. Fear can make us do things that really don’t make ANY sense, just because we are convinced that appeasing our fears is better than the alternative.
But God has HUGE promises for those who give Him room to move in their lives- and He’s a big God so make room!
Defeating the Fear of Losing a Husband
When losing a spouse, it can seem like the whole world is passing by in front of your eyes. You struggle to catch your breath on the roller-coaster of emotions. One day you’re doing okay and the next you’re barely able to get out of your pajamas.
No judgment. I have so llama-pajamas been there.
But in this season of pain, God is so gentle. He’s beckoning you to Him, to let Him take your pain, and do something beautiful with it. And while we may not know exactly how that all plays out, the Bible is full of indicators as to what God wants us to expect from Him.
Yes, I said expect.
God wants us to trust Him, so He gives us assurance of our “return on investment” beforehand. Which, since He is God, He really doesn’t have to do. But He loves us like that. He knows how battered we are. How timid we can be. How scared we are to let go. And He gently invites us closer by showing us in advance what He wants to do for us.
That way, we’ll know it’s Him when we see it…
15 Things You’ll Notice God Does When You Stop Worrying
Psalm 34 delivers a mighty wallop of God’s promises for those who trust Him, all one place. It invites us in by saying, “all who are helpless, take heart” (v. 2, NLT).
Feeling helpless, anyone? Yeah, I still see you back there, sis.
As the psalm continues, it reveals 15 different ways God blesses those who trust Him. They are:
Answered prayer. “In my desperation I prayed, and the LORD listened” (v. 6a).
Freedom from fear. “He freed me from all my fears” (v. 4b).
Freedom from shame. “No shadow of shame will darken their faces” (v. 5b).
Rescue from trouble. “The LORD hears his people when they call to him for help.
He rescues them from all their troubles” (v. 17)
Security. “For the angel of the LORD is a guard” (v. 7a).
Protection. “He surrounds and defends all who fear him” (v. 7b).
Attention. “The eyes of the LORD watch over those who do right;
his ears are open to their cries for help” (v. 15).
Joy. “Oh, the joys of those who take refuge in him!” (v. 8b).
Provision. “For those who fear him will have all they need” (v. 9b).
Prosperity. “Those who trust in the LORD will lack no good thing.” (v. 10b)
A long & prosperous life. “Does anyone want to live a life
that is long and prosperous? Then keep your tongue from speaking evil
and your lips from telling lies” (v. 12-13)
Closeness. “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted;
he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (v. 18).
Bodily health. “For the LORD protects the bones of the righteous;
not one of them is broken” (v. 20).
Justice. “Calamity will surely overtake the wicked,
and those who hate the righteous will be punished” (v. 21).
Salvation. “But the LORD will redeem those who serve him.
No one who takes refuge in him will be condemned” (v. 22).
What a list!
When we give our troubles to God, boy, He delivers. God cares for us; mind, body, AND spirit. God knows all our needs, and not a single one is neglected. He doesn’t pick and choose which ones He has time for. He bestows His blessings on us wholly. And when we seek Him, He takes our broken, sorrow-filled, fear-laden lives and breathes complete and total life into them.
Woo, did you feel that!?
In comparison, it seems crazy that we would hold on to all those remnants of our past and anxieties of the future. But we do, and God loves us too much to let us stay that way. So now that you know what you know, tell me- why are you holding on to all those fears again?