Abuse Doesn't Define You: Rediscovering Your Worth

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I’m an avid hiker- I most especially love hikes near waterfalls. The thing about waterfall hikes is that you never can seem to get close enough from the trail itself. To get the full experience of the power and majesty of the falls, you’ve got to get off the trail and into the stream.

Most of my waterfall hikes start out the same way- for the first hour, I try to avoid getting my feet wet at just about any cost. I precariously teeter on the slippery rocks, carefully selecting each step so as not to end up completely waterlogged.

And I just about break my neck in the process.

Inevitably, one miscalculated step is all it takes and I end up ankle deep in the river (but secretly loving it)! As I happily trudge through the water like a kid splashing in a puddle, I wonder why I didn’t just start that way in the first place.

On my most recent hike I made it to the base of a massive waterfall, water deafeningly cascading from the rugged cliff face. I found a solitary perch away from the throngs of people around me and sat quietly, still in God’s presence.


I was completely awestruck. This particular waterfall wasn’t Niagara-level epic, but was still no less beautifully unique. In my tear-filled wonder, I felt God whisper into my broken heart the sweetest reminder of my own value to Him. I beheld that the Father Himself had created each of us with even more splendor than these breathtaking falls. He created me, and you, in His likeness, set apart for His delight.

And there at the base of the falls, I wept in worship.

Abuse Cannot Steal Your Worth

If you have been (or are in) an abusive relationship, the sense of utter worthlessness you have no doubt encountered is devastating. You have been made to question your significance and purpose, all because the man who promised to love you has cast you off as a commodity, an inconvenience.

But it need not be so.

Whether you are in such a relationship or trying to escape one, it is essential that you know your value will never lay within the hands of another flawed, sin-ravaged human. You are GOD’S child, GOD’S creation. He delights in you! And when you accept Jesus as your Savior, 2 Corinthians 5:17 says you become a “new creation.” You are not defined by those feelings of worthlessness and brokenness. Jesus declares, “You are mine!”

And when you start accepting the freedom that comes with shrugging off what you’ve been told to believe about yourself, you can truly LIVE. Ephesians 2:10 “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” (NASB) What does that all mean? You are not just another woman; you are a masterpiece gifted with a specific mission, ordained by God Himself, just for you.

Regaining Self-Worth in Christ

When it comes to our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being, abusive relationships can quickly become all-consuming and throw our lives out of balance. But sister, before you were a wife, before you were a mother, you were a daughter of The King!

“I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10b NKJV)

God cherishes you and will show you what He has prepared for you, even in the midst of trying circumstances. When you understand how valuable you are in the eyes of your Creator, we know you will possess renewed hope and clarity as to His purpose and plan for you. It’s our prayer that you will be filled with the Holy Spirit today and experience the love and presence of the God who loves you dearly, that you would walk in light and peace.

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