Co-Parenting with God: Family Matters Feature

Co-Parenting with God: Family Matters Feature

I’m a planner. I think by the time I was sixteen, I’d had the whole trajectory of my life planned out. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids– anyone else like that?

Yeah, I see you…

But let’s just say life didn’t exactly go according to plan. I didn’t plan to end up getting divorced. And I definitely didn’t plan to end up a single parent.

Whether you’re a planner or not, most of us don’t have these things in mind when we get married and have children. But they happen. And if they do, it can be really difficult to wrap your mind around how you are going to do the job of two parents, when you are just one person.

Enter seemingly endless amounts of single parent guilt (like regular parent guilt, just on less sleep and more caffeine).

Sound familiar? We’re talking co-parenting on our latest guest post over on the Family Matters Blog. Check it out, and be encouraged that parenting on your own does not mean parenting alone.

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Mother's Day for the Single Mom

Mother's Day for the Single Mom

I recently overheard a single mom talking to a friend of hers about Mother’s Day.

“I just hate that I have to make my own breakfast and buy my own gifts. It’s not supposed to be like this.”

I know it’s easy to be frustrated about Mother’s Day, especially if you focus on what you get or don’t get. Truth be told, there are a bunch of married mothers out there who will also be upset today about what they get or don’t get.

But the honor that comes from being a mom isn’t found in brunches. Your value isn’t declared in whether or not you get breakfast in bed or monogrammed gifts. Sure, I like cards and flowers as much as the next girl, but I’m overwhelmed with joy when I consider Mother’s Day as an opportunity to reflect on the beautiful ministry that motherhood is, and the honor God has bestowed upon me in it.

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Seven Things Every Single Mom Needs (But Will Never Ask For)

Seven Things Every Single Mom Needs (But Will Never Ask For)

When my marriage first ended, I hated referring to myself as a “single mom.” I hated the connotation of it, like a giant “F” for Failure had been stamped on my forehead.

Like I had been handed a membership card to a club I never wanted to be in.

But over time, I realized that I did not need to let the term “single mother” define me, but rather describe my situation. And the fact is that being in this situation has some unique needs and challenges that are summed up pretty well with the words “single mom.”

(Because “lonely-woman-raising-three-kids-while-being-solely-responsible-for-managing-a-household” is too long.)

As I’ve walked this journey, I’ve come to understand just how much the Lord has ministered to me through the people around me (in ways I didn’t even know I needed). But I’ve also realized just how much I neglected the needs of the single moms around me in my “pre-single mom” days. And not because I didn’t care, but because I didn’t understand.

If you’re a single mom struggling to help those in your life understand, or if you have a single mom in your life that you want to reach out to, check out this list of Seven Ways to Support a Single Mom.

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{Why Does It Have to Be This Way?} Hope for Single Moms

{Why Does It Have to Be This Way?} Hope for Single Moms

I know you’ve been there. That day when NOTHING goes right. That day when your kiddo gets sick and you don’t have childcare. That day when you discover a past due bill that didn’t get paid. That day when you collapse into your empty bed, which for some reason seems emptier now than it ever has before.

That day when you realize, yet again, that you are a single mom.

Okay, I know some of you would say this is everyday. But you know there are those days that just stand out from the rest (and I’m not talking in a “gold star” kind of way). The days that make you wonder, “Did it really have to be this way?”

It’s a hard question. And sometimes it seems there are no good answers. But we are loved by the God of answers, who never leaves us stranded without hope.

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