Recovering Your Worth After the Trauma of Abuse and Divorce

Recovering Your Worth After the Trauma of Abuse and Divorce

I have talked to many single moms (several of whom have suffered through abusive relationships) who all tell me the same thing-

“I just don’t know who I am anymore. I feel worthless.”

Trauma often causes us to devalue ourselves. But what’s really dangerous is establishing a pattern of cutting ourselves down and then calling it humility. Somehow, some of us (myself included) got the idea that thinking less of ourselves is righteous (because, after all, we don’t want to get all full of ourselves, right?).

Wrong.

Many of us cross the line into a kind self-bullying known as false humility. It’s not biblical and worse yet, it’s a lie of the enemy to paralyze you and keep you from living the abundant life God intended for you.

(No judgement here, mama- like I said, I’ve been there too.)

Ephesians 2:10 literally says in Christ, you are God’s masterpiece. Treating a masterpiece of God as useless trash isn’t humility, and it isn’t righteous. But what then is real humility, and how does it help us recover our sense of worth?

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{Why Does It Have to Be This Way?} Hope for Single Moms

{Why Does It Have to Be This Way?} Hope for Single Moms

I know you’ve been there. That day when NOTHING goes right. That day when your kiddo gets sick and you don’t have childcare. That day when you discover a past due bill that didn’t get paid. That day when you collapse into your empty bed, which for some reason seems emptier now than it ever has before.

That day when you realize, yet again, that you are a single mom.

Okay, I know some of you would say this is everyday. But you know there are those days that just stand out from the rest (and I’m not talking in a “gold star” kind of way). The days that make you wonder, “Did it really have to be this way?”

It’s a hard question. And sometimes it seems there are no good answers. But we are loved by the God of answers, who never leaves us stranded without hope.

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