Co-Parenting with God: Family Matters Feature

Co-Parenting with God: Family Matters Feature

I’m a planner. I think by the time I was sixteen, I’d had the whole trajectory of my life planned out. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids– anyone else like that?

Yeah, I see you…

But let’s just say life didn’t exactly go according to plan. I didn’t plan to end up getting divorced. And I definitely didn’t plan to end up a single parent.

Whether you’re a planner or not, most of us don’t have these things in mind when we get married and have children. But they happen. And if they do, it can be really difficult to wrap your mind around how you are going to do the job of two parents, when you are just one person.

Enter seemingly endless amounts of single parent guilt (like regular parent guilt, just on less sleep and more caffeine).

Sound familiar? We’re talking co-parenting on our latest guest post over on the Family Matters Blog. Check it out, and be encouraged that parenting on your own does not mean parenting alone.

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When Dad Disappoints: 5 Ways Single Moms Should Respond

When Dad Disappoints: 5 Ways Single Moms Should Respond

Kerry* is a working single mom of two kids, who often struggles with absenteeism when it comes to her ex-husband’s visitation with their children.

“He doesn’t stick to our regular schedule and changes plans a lot. Like last weekend he promised to be at my son’s karate tournament, but then canceled at the last minute without an explanation. To ‘make up for it’ he let them go nuts buying candy at the gas station, like it never happened. It crushes me to watch this happen over and over, but what can I do?”

Kerry’s not alone– more than 1 in 4 kids live in a home without their father. But an additional challenge exists for single mothers when a child’s father is “in the picture,” but provides inconsistent emotional and spiritual support.

Research shows that a father’s emotional unavailability is just as damaging as his physical unavailability, with a variety of longterm emotional and mental health consequences. Knowing this, what’s a single mother to do?

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